‘Failure is the most important ingredient for success.’ Do you agree?

Many successful people have risen from their failures. They use their failures as stepping-stones as the successes. For some people, failure acts as a motivation, for others, it strengthens their emotional health. As for me, I use failures as a guide. I use failure to remind myself not to make the same mistakes again and to improve from the mistakes I made.

Being able to learn from the mistakes one have made is one step closer to success. In my opinion, I learn best from failures. For instance, I have been baking since I entered secondary three. At the beginning, I would bake for people around me to try and taste my products. The comments I received were not supportive and encouraging as my products might not taste right or it may be too dry. To share my frustrations and feelings on baking, I started to blog. I shared my thoughts and ideas on the Internet as a way to express myself during baking. The feedback I got from people abroad is really helpful and incredible. I noted their way of baking and applied it to my baking. It encouraged me and I was able to bake better. Since then, I have improved and picked myself up from the failures I made back then and slowly reaching the route to success.

Failures can be daunting and discouraging at times, however it also can make your emotional well being stronger. Most of the successful people I come across are resilient, confident and positive. Along the way to their success, there are nasty people who would throw harsh comments and awful words at them, when they fail. These people not only reacted to such situations in a calm way, they also persevered and gained confidence. This would train one mental health, as one might not be able to take the harsh critics and nasty words. It would allow one to anticipate certain things, such as people with a foul mouth, and minimize the mistakes one might make in the future. For example, When readers of my blog throw nasty comments, I would be affected by their words, however I chose not to let it affect me deeply as it is pointless to be upset with someone behind a computer screen that I do not know. I would try to use the bad comments to improve on my skills and produce something greater and be successful.

Some people use failures as a motivation. They are aware of their faults and they chose to work on it, venture out to find out more about their fault and develop something better. Without failure, one is restricted to the limited knowledge they own as one would not venture out to search for further information on how to improve or thrive. Like myself, I had times when my cakes or muffins were dry and unpalatable. It was disappointing, but I would ask Google or people around me for solution. I got my answers and tried again. I was glad that the final product was acceptable and I was contented with myself for trying again and asking for help. Through that, I learnt more ways and solution to expand my baking.

In spite of the numerous success stories from failure, some people use failure as an excuse to stop trying. They stop trying once they failed. I have friends who use failure as an excuse to stop trying. With one setback, they would immediately stop trying. No matter how much I encourage them to try again, they would just say ‘No’. It might be their lack of confidence or fear of failing, to them, failing is not the most important ingredient for success.

All in all, people have their own ways to success. It might be solely their own effort to success or from the help of their family and friends. For me, I strongly believe that to the route to success, one has to fail and pick themselves up as the experience and knowledge one would gather when they fail would prepare one mentally when they are successful.

So, Hi! Well, I do not know how to start but I feel extremely awful for not posting anything for about 3 weeks now.. So I took a little break from all the revision I was doing to post a little something that I wrote during this 3 weeks. I  hope you have enjoyed it as much as I did! And probably the next post I am going to do is about the joyous occasion of ending my examinations… So.. Till next time.

Stress Buster!

As you guys may know, I am currently having my mid-year examinations. Therefore stress is written all over my face. With added pressure from teachers and parents, I had to find a way to ease the stress during studying and revision.

Thus HERE ARE 8 WAYS TO EASE MY STRESS DURING REVISION! Please try it out and see if it’s effective for you!

  1. Environment! The place that you pick to study is very important. I see many people heading to fast food stores to study. In my opinion, fast food stores such as MacDonald and KFC are among the worst choice to study. It’s a place for people to dine, not to study. It’s constantly noisy, you can never concentrate with such environment. However if you are studying there because of your friends , do you and your friend a favour and persuade them, to study at a better and more conducive environment, like the library or at school. Those places are much better than a fast food store, it’s less greasy and noisy. In my case, I love to study alone at home. I made a special space for my revision; quiet, spacious and comfortable. That way I make sure I get some productive studying done!
  2. Set your mind straight! You do not want to start studying without knowing what to do. So create a mental list of the subjects you plan to revise. That way, you would not be clueless and dumbfounded when you start studying. Make sure to allocate ample amount of time for the subjects.
  3. Readiness! Prepare all the materials you need to revise that day. You do not want to study with insufficient materials and you might probably feel bad borrowing materials from a friend. So, set your revision materials aside a night before or hours before. I usually bring notes or worksheets as I thought books were really heavy and most of time, my notes cover everything I need to know!
  4. NO DISTRACTIONS! In the world we live in today, everyone has a cellphone/smartphone on them. You could excess to the Internet anytime and anywhere of the day. Hence, just for that few hours of revision, sacrifice the use of technology. Don’t just leave your phone on silent mode or place it 1 metres away. It is useless. Ask your parent or friend to safe-keep your phone or leave your phone somewhere safe and away from your revision area. Without technology, you do study better. Your concentration is 100% on studying and not on Twitter or Instagram. Trust me, been there done that! I have gone about 3 to 4 hours without technology during my revision and it really helps. The information does penetrate into my brain better!
  5. Music… Up till today, I have no idea if music helps you study better, however, I tend to study without music when I am alone. When I am with my friends or outside my home studying, I would listen to music while studying. In my point of view, it is probably better to study without music as you would not get distracted with the song or rhythm or busy changing the song you rather not listen that day.
  6. Companionship. I see a lot people studying with friends and for this, it is your preference. You might enjoy a company while studying, while others prefer solo work. For me, I am a solo worker. I think having friends around while studying is a little of a distraction, therefore I studying alone.
  7. Asking for help! Clarifying your doubts during revision is the MOST important part. As I study alone at home, without technology beside me, I would leave my doubts aside  and clarify them in school the next day with my teachers, that way I get the sufficient knowledge and help for exams.
  8. Last but not least, Determination! You might think that ‘Oh! This is a cliche point that everyone talk about…’ Well, you are not wrong! Your determination to ace examinations is the drive to your revision. Therefore set your goals straight, strive to get that! For me, I have seen myself working harder this year than last year. Thus, I hope hard work pays off!

There you go! My 8 steps to ease stress during revision. Hope it is useful as it is pretty effective for me and Good luck and Have Fun studying!

My success story.

Hello! This is the second essay I have posted on my blog. I just wanted to share the essay that I’ve been working on. You might probably think ‘Why am I posting essays and not food?’ Exams are here and basically my main focus are on studies. So pardon me for this period of time. Oh! And for the next week, I would be on studying mood, hence I would not be posting anything for the following weeks. My apologies for the inconvenience. But for now, enjoy this essay on my success story! It’s a little lengthy but ENJOY!

‘Don’t aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it comes naturally.’ –David Frost

Everyone have his or her great success story. My definition of success is an accomplishment of one’s goal.  So here is my great success story…

2013 was a breakout year for me. I was taking my national examinations. The stress level was high and disappointment was not an option. Aside from the revision and school, I wanted to find a stress-reliever. So I decided to bake. I did not take much interest in baking during my primary school days but when I entered secondary school, I find baking very interesting and therepeutic. When I first started baking, it was about setting my emotion and stress aside and focusing only on baking the product. However as I got more involved in baking, I developed a passion for it. A passion whereby I would want to break out from my comfort zone to try out challenging variations and plunged into the world of baking. As my passion for baking grows, people around me are my guinea pigs. Whenever I bake, their stomach would be filled in no time. I gave the fruits of my labour to anyone and everyone who wants them.

I wanted to spread my love for food and baking, therefore I created this blog. Big On Food. I never had any experience in blogging nor writing, other than the essays I am told to write in school. However I just type whatever flow through my mind about food. Blogging got a lot more interesting when I found out people   viewed my blog, it gave me a little more drive to express myself on this blog. When I surpassed the amount of views I never expected to get so soon, I was motivated. Motivated to share and commit to blogging.

Then words spread like wild fire about me blogging and it travelled to my aunt’s ear.

One mundane Saturday morning, I received a call from my aunt. Unknowingly, my baking activities reached my aunt’s ears. She conducts private art classes.

She spoke through the cellphone with a hint of excitement and it got me curious with the content she was going to spill in a matter of seconds. She was wondering if she could purchase two dozens of red velvet cupcakes with cream cheese frosting by the following week for her art class. I was thrilled by the idea but decided to give it a thought before making empty promises. I thought it through and well and accepted the order. I got down to the task that following as I could ensure that the cupcakes would be fresh and delicious.

Firstly, I researched for a suitable red velvet cupcake recipe. Coincidentally, I bought a recipe book filled with all kinds of different cupcakes weeks ago. They even provided the cream cheese frosting. It was a sign of relief to have the recipe found so soon. Next were the ingredients shopping. I checked through the entire kitchen to make sure that I do not purchase the same ingredient that I already have at home. Purchasing the materials was an easy task as I was familiar to with the supermarket. It certainly made things effortless. I got home later that evening with arms with bags of eggs, flour and butter. I freshened up and got myself prepared for the long night ahead of me. I neatly arranged the equipment and ingredients on the kitchen top and was all set to make a wreck in the kitchen in the middle of the night. By the time I was done, it was already two in the morning. I ensured that the cupcakes were covered properly and insect-free before hitting the sack.

The following afternoon was the collection of the cupcakes. I made an effort to rise early to frost the cupcakes. I made the frosting to the right consistency, thick, sweet and creamy, and piped the cupcakes. Then packed them into boxes and await for the arrival of my aunt. I personally handed her the two boxes of cupcakes and watched her took her leave and did not hear from her ever since till the following night. She sent me a text, claiming that her students and herself loved the frosting and the cupcakes. I was on cloud nine. Not only did I manage to do what I love but managed to spread to people who are foreign to me. It was certainly a great success.

Teenage rebellion; A part of growing up?

Since young, I listened to my parents, obeyed their instructions, and did what they wanted me to do. At times, I would rebel against their wants. I thought I was old enough to make my own decisions. There are instances where my rebellion brought me to tears and still, I did not win the battles. One of my hard fought battles was wanting to go for a sleepover, which I was not allowed to. My parents forbade me from going for a sleepover at a friend’s place on her sixteen’s birthday. My mum told me that I have a home and there was no reason for me to sleepover at my friend’s home. I spent days to reason with my parents. I told them I would like to spend more time with my friends and a sleepover is a good opportunity for bonding.  But I lost. I gave them the silent treatment for days. Upon reflection, I gathered the silent treatment was unnecessary but I refused to apologize.

Rebellion against parental control is part of growing up. We as teenagers are curious about the outside world. We do not want to be confined in just school and home. We want to meet other people outside our immediate circle of friends; to be in popular hangout places and to be current amongst our peers. These wants often do not sit well with our parents. Parents would always restrict us from doing things, which they believe to be unsafe or wrong. This mismatch of expectation and beliefs often leads to teenage rebellion. The reason why parents usually dislike teenage rebellion is not only that it creates more resistance to their job of providing structure, guidance, and supervision, but also because rebellion can lead to serious kinds of harm.

Rebellion can cause teenagers to rebel against their own self-interests like rejecting activities that benefit them or relationships that often support their self-esteem. It can cause them to engage in self-defeating and self-destructive behavior like refusing to do school work or even physically hurting themselves. Some of them experiment with high-risk excitement such as accepting dares, which could lead to hurtful circumstances. They often let impulse overrule judgment to a dangerous effect. Such rebellion could injure valued relationships such as pushing those whom they care away.

Some studies show, teenagers who rebel against their parents mature twice as fast than those who are meek and only listen to their parents without asking for reasons.  They are street-smart since survival is vital when you are on your own outside. There are no parents to watch over them thus they have to find solutions to their problems or poor company. They ask questions, as they know sometimes their parents do not reason well.

 However when teenagers rebel to an extent whereby he or she starts smoking or not coming home for days, parents need to ponder and question themselves on the restrictions they have imposed on their children and try to figure out a solution to solve the misunderstanding between them.

 A possible solution to teenage rebellion is to offer teenagers true independence by creating and accepting a challenge. Teenagers who decide to do something hard with themselves for themselves in order to grow themselves have to have their parents’ support. By having parents’ support, teenagers do not have to rebel to transform or redefine themselves in their growing years.

Teenage years are testing period to make choices for themselves as well as to build trust between teenagers and the adults around them. To rebel is to disagree, and to disagree is not wrong but how we manage that disagreement is essential in character building. Thus, rebellion against parental control is part of growing up.

 P.S This is an essay I wrote as preparation for my upcoming exams. I found this topic relevant to myself and my peers. Fortunately for me, I hardly rebel as my parents gave in to my request most of the time but my request were not unreasonable. They trust that I would make wise decisions and reason those which they feel are not right.

My Mum looks as though she needs control. :)
My Mum looks as though she needs control. 🙂

Dad, Can I go to Cambodia now??? 🙂

Reference:

1. Rebel with a Cause: Rebellion in Adolescence, http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/surviving-your-childs-adolescence/200912/rebel-cause-rebellion-in-adolescence
2. Rebellion against parental control is part of growing up, http://sst2013-s408el.blogspot.sg/2013/04/rebellion-against-parental-control-is.html