Teenage rebellion; A part of growing up?

Since young, I listened to my parents, obeyed their instructions, and did what they wanted me to do. At times, I would rebel against their wants. I thought I was old enough to make my own decisions. There are instances where my rebellion brought me to tears and still, I did not win the battles. One of my hard fought battles was wanting to go for a sleepover, which I was not allowed to. My parents forbade me from going for a sleepover at a friend’s place on her sixteen’s birthday. My mum told me that I have a home and there was no reason for me to sleepover at my friend’s home. I spent days to reason with my parents. I told them I would like to spend more time with my friends and a sleepover is a good opportunity for bonding.  But I lost. I gave them the silent treatment for days. Upon reflection, I gathered the silent treatment was unnecessary but I refused to apologize.

Rebellion against parental control is part of growing up. We as teenagers are curious about the outside world. We do not want to be confined in just school and home. We want to meet other people outside our immediate circle of friends; to be in popular hangout places and to be current amongst our peers. These wants often do not sit well with our parents. Parents would always restrict us from doing things, which they believe to be unsafe or wrong. This mismatch of expectation and beliefs often leads to teenage rebellion. The reason why parents usually dislike teenage rebellion is not only that it creates more resistance to their job of providing structure, guidance, and supervision, but also because rebellion can lead to serious kinds of harm.

Rebellion can cause teenagers to rebel against their own self-interests like rejecting activities that benefit them or relationships that often support their self-esteem. It can cause them to engage in self-defeating and self-destructive behavior like refusing to do school work or even physically hurting themselves. Some of them experiment with high-risk excitement such as accepting dares, which could lead to hurtful circumstances. They often let impulse overrule judgment to a dangerous effect. Such rebellion could injure valued relationships such as pushing those whom they care away.

Some studies show, teenagers who rebel against their parents mature twice as fast than those who are meek and only listen to their parents without asking for reasons.  They are street-smart since survival is vital when you are on your own outside. There are no parents to watch over them thus they have to find solutions to their problems or poor company. They ask questions, as they know sometimes their parents do not reason well.

 However when teenagers rebel to an extent whereby he or she starts smoking or not coming home for days, parents need to ponder and question themselves on the restrictions they have imposed on their children and try to figure out a solution to solve the misunderstanding between them.

 A possible solution to teenage rebellion is to offer teenagers true independence by creating and accepting a challenge. Teenagers who decide to do something hard with themselves for themselves in order to grow themselves have to have their parents’ support. By having parents’ support, teenagers do not have to rebel to transform or redefine themselves in their growing years.

Teenage years are testing period to make choices for themselves as well as to build trust between teenagers and the adults around them. To rebel is to disagree, and to disagree is not wrong but how we manage that disagreement is essential in character building. Thus, rebellion against parental control is part of growing up.

 P.S This is an essay I wrote as preparation for my upcoming exams. I found this topic relevant to myself and my peers. Fortunately for me, I hardly rebel as my parents gave in to my request most of the time but my request were not unreasonable. They trust that I would make wise decisions and reason those which they feel are not right.

My Mum looks as though she needs control. :)
My Mum looks as though she needs control. 🙂

Dad, Can I go to Cambodia now??? 🙂

Reference:

1. Rebel with a Cause: Rebellion in Adolescence, http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/surviving-your-childs-adolescence/200912/rebel-cause-rebellion-in-adolescence
2. Rebellion against parental control is part of growing up, http://sst2013-s408el.blogspot.sg/2013/04/rebellion-against-parental-control-is.html

What a Wreck…

Yet again, tragic has struck South-East Asia. About 5 to 6 weeks ago, Malaysian airline MH370 went missing. Till today, many nations are still at search for the airplane. However last Wednesday in South Korea, a ferry on a routine trip from the port of Incheon to the traditional honeymoon island Jeju, sank. It carried 476 passengers and crew. 339 students and teacher were on a high school outing to Jeju Island. Little that they know, that it was their last school outing.

Till two days ago, April 22 2014, only 174 were rescued. 108 were found dead and 194, still missing. It was a grief to all in South Korea. What sadden me the most was that the passengers on board were mostly students. Young and innocent lives were lost to this tragedy. I believe these students were ambitious and bright and had a whole life to live ahead of them; alas those lives were taken too soon.

Another agonizing fact was that students were sending out texts, such as ‘Don’t worry Dad.’ or ‘I love you, Mum’ while the ferry was sinking. To put myself in their parents or guardians shoes, I would probably have a mental outburst, demanding for an answer, feeling lost, worried and afraid. Afraid of losing my child. It is not a feeling anyone should be put through. But all that could be done is to wait patiently.

We cannot prevent the accident from happening, but right now, what we can do is to pray and hope that the parents are given an answer soon. A little something I learnt from this 2 current incident is not to take life lightly. Live everyday meaningfully and give your love ones the love that they deserve before it is too late.

Seoul, The City of food for the soul…

Seoul, Korea. With a population more than 100 million. A place for shopaholic and K-Pop stars. Apart from all the fantastic cosmetic shopping and the dazzling K-Pop bands, food is the next attraction in Seoul.

I visited Seoul last December, 2013. I was very enthusiastic for the trip as I heard so much about their history of food. From aged kimchi to greasy street food, whom I was drooling about the entire trip. I recalled bugging my parents to take me to somewhere where I could devour cheap and amazing street food. Yet, they said ‘Good food comes if you were to wait.’ I sensed sarcasm in those words that came out of their mouth, however I still waited. Few days into the trip, I coincidentally bumped into a tiny store that sell a limited amount of street food, but I am not complaining.

Street store #1!
Street store #1!

I immediately browse through the selection of goodies and took out some won to exchange for some delicacy.

Greedy me...
Greedy me…

I ordered a stick of hotdog, covered in a batter with french fries. Then they deep fried it to give the fries a crispy texture and golden yellow colour. That was certainly a sinful start to my journey of food in Seoul.

The following days, I encountered more street vendors and indeed, ended up with a stuffed stomach filled with local foods.

Street store #2!
Street store #2!
Eating a stick of fishcakes with soup!
Eating a stick of fishcakes with soup!
Street store #3!
Street store #3! Apparently this street vendor is selling something associated with sausage…

And when in Korea, how could you miss out on grilled meat?!?! So for dinner one night, my family and I sat down at a little cozy family restaurant for some grilled meat!

Ladies of the family.
Ladies of the family.
Table filled with side dishes and grilled meat!
Table filled with side dishes and grilled meat!
Don't judge! I have a mouthful of food when my dad decided to 'capture' the moment...
Don’t judge! I have a mouthful of food when my dad decided to ‘capture’ the moment…

We ordered some other dishes like Kimchi soup, bimbimbap (hot-stone pot rice) and Jiajangmyun (Bean paste noodles).

Kimchi soup with mushrooms, cabbage, ramen noodles, spring onion, sausage and many more assorted ingredients!
Kimchi soup with mushrooms, cabbage, ramen noodles, spring onion, sausage and many more assorted ingredients!
Bean paste noodle which I have been dying to eat for the whole trip!
Bean paste noodle which I have been dying to eat for the whole trip!

We left the restaurant with a huge tummy and smile on our faces.

I was really satisfied that I got to see and taste the food that locals eat. I am looking forward for the next trip somewhere sometime with my family this year. I hope the food would be as good as it was in Seoul. For those who are visiting Seoul or planning to visit Seoul, do try their street vendors. You would be surprise by their appearance, smell and taste. Good luck & Have Fun!

And here's a family picture in Seoul!
And here’s a family picture in Seoul!

A plate of goodness~

What is  your idea of a perfect breakfast? Mine is a plate with a stack of pancakes! Yes, pancakes! Pancakes sometimes bring the fanciness, goofiness and the kid in me. I have friends who do not share the same interest in me, however I do not stop myself from bringing them to establish pancakes shop. The smell of butter, the flop when you place that fluffy disk on your dish, it is like heaven for me. I have no idea how I became so obsessive over pancakes, but I am not complaining.

So when there is love for a certain dish, I would cook it! Therefore, one Saturday morning, I made my own pancakes! I did not went to search for recipes as the buttermilk carton I bought, has a pancake recipe at the back of it.

Recipe for my buttermilk pancake!
Recipe for my buttermilk pancake!

I left the orange rind out as I did not want citrus flavour or taste  in the pancake. And I did not incorporate the blueberries into the pancake but ate it alongside with the pancakes.   I did as instructed from the recipe and believe it or not, the pancakes turned out great! It was fluffy, soft and yummy! I ate it with blueberries and honey. If you have maple syrup, you could definitely use that too. And butter!

Final product!
My pride and glory! 
My half eaten pancakes..
My half eaten pancakes..

Tips for making pancakes!

  1. Always start your first pancake as a trial. You want to get the rhythm of pouring the batter and flipping the pancake. Then after the first pancake, you will be more comfortable doing the second.
  2. Do not add loads of butter when you are starting the next pancake. The pancake may tend to turn brown very easily as the butter might brown the sides of your pancake. Hence add little butter when doing the next.
  3. Be patient! Do not be too eager to flip your pancake, you might tear it as it has not fully cook yet.

Here is the recipe for buttermilk pancakes! From the back of the buttermilk carton!

Buttermilk pancakes

Ingredients

1 & ½ cups self-raising flour

2 tablespoons caster sugar

375ml buttermilk

1 egg, lightly beaten

1 tablespoon melted margarine (or butter)

1 cup of blueberries

Method

  1. Sift flour into a bowl
  2. Add sugar, buttermilk, egg and margarine. Beat with a wooden spoon until batter is smooth.
  3. Preheat a non-stick and place some butter onto frying pan over a medium heat.
  4. Spoon batter with a ladle. Cook pancakes one at a time.
  5. Cook pancakes for approximately 1-2 minutes or till bubbles appear in the un-cook batter.
  6. Then flip the pancake over and cook for about 1-2 minutes or till golden.
  7. Then, place on a plate and pour syrup or honey and DIG IN!

(If you could not find any buttermilk in the supermarket, you can make your own. Firstly measure 1 cup of milk and 1 tablespoon of lemon juice or white vinegar. Pour them both into a bowl or cup and stir. Set aside for about 5-10 minutes and use them when you need to! This substitute may not be as thick and creamy as the original buttermilk, however it worked fine.)

It is a very easy recipe to follow and do and I had an amazing time cooking the pancakes! For those who love pancakes, this a recipe you should try out! Good luck & Have fun.

Where it all started…

When I first started baking, I knew nothing about baking. I had to dig out recipes and search for equipment on my own. The very basic munches in bakery are chocolate cupcakes. They are a classic to baking. So I picked up my reading glasses and started searching for classical chocolate cupcakes. I had little knowledge on baking, therefore I picked the easier recipe and the ingredients that could be found easily in supermarkets.

When I found the suitable recipe, I went ‘hunting’ for the ingredients. It wasn’t difficult as the ingredients are pretty simple and easily found. I got home and started on the cupcakes straight away. As I was inexperienced to baking, I did not lay out my ingredients and equipment first, leading to a messy working space. However, it did not bother my baking, but I made a mental note to always remember to place all the ingredients and equipment out before baking.

The dozen of chocolate cupcakes I baked came out rather well. There was a lovely crack on each cupcake, which made it look rustic and old-fashioned. It was moist and thick and chocolatey. However with my lack of organisation, I forgot to pour in milk into the cupcakes as it was hidden in the fridge and I have forgotten all about it.  Therefore this is again another reminder to always set your ingredients and equipments aside before baking.

So without further ado, here is the classic chocolate cupcakes recipe that I love.

Classic Chocolate Cupcakes.
Classic Chocolate Cupcakes.

Chocolate Cupcakes

Ingredients

1 & 1/3 cup all-purpose flour

¼ teaspoon baking soda

2 teaspoons baking powder

¾ cups unsweetened cocoa powder

1/8 teaspoon salt

3-tablespoon butter

1 & ½ cups white sugar

2 eggs

¾ teaspoon vanilla extract

1-cup milk

Method:

  1. Preheat oven to 175C. Line muffin pan with paper or foil liner.
  2. Sift together flour, baking powder, baking soda, cocoa powder and salt. Set aside.
  3. In a large boil, cream together butter and sugar, till light and fluffy. Add eggs one at a time, beating well. Then stir in vanilla.
  4. Add the flour mixture, alternately with the milk into the wet ingredients. Beat well. (I usually add 1/3 of milk with about 1/3-2/3 of flour into the wet ingredients and mix. Then repeat till milk and flour are all incorporated in the wet ingredients.)
  5. Fill the muffins cups ¾ full.
  6. Bake for 15 to 17 minutes in preheated oven, or till skewer inserted comes out clean.

It was certainly my beginning to the world of flour, butter, sugar and messes! Baking have never been a chore to me after. My love of baking strengthen and grows and I never want to stop. To all those who have yet to find what they love, yearn or admire, don’t stop looking. You will find it someday, somehow, somewhere. Good Luck & Have Fun.